ROYAL WOMEN SHOULD NOT BE ABUSED

ROYAL WOMEN SHOULD NOT BE ABUSED!

You are too precious to be abused by anyone. God knows it, I know it, deep in your heart you know it, and the devil thinks he knows it. He knows that you are God’s daughter, but he hasn’t told you that. He has lied to you and you choose to take his word over Gods. It’s time for you to stop believing him and start believing what God says about you.

God says that you are a royal priesthood. You have been adopted into the royal family and that makes you a princess. Do you remember how beautiful princess Di was? She was not only beautiful on the outside, but she had inner beauty and a genuine love for people. Do you think she deserved to be abused? Of course not!

I have been in your situation. If you were married, my advice to you would be different, but thank God you are not, so your solution is simple. Tell him good bye and don’t look back. You don’t have to stay with him and hope that he changes. No, please do not waste your time when you could be fellowshipping with friends or family and enjoying life.

He’s going to change, if I would do more of this, if I just stop doing that, if I just stop getting angry (when he’s doing you wrong), if I would just stop accusing him of other women (even when you know for sure it’s true). Then you continue it’s all my fault, I can’t do anything right, I’m not good enough for him, the harder I try, the more I mess up so I’m just a failure, he deserves better than me, but I love him too much to leave, so I will just stay and get what I deserve.

These are lies, lies, lies, lies and more lies, that Satan has told you and me. The last lie I remember believing was no man would ever love me because I’m just too ugly and too stupid. Sounds silly doesn’t it?

Do you see the pattern? We as women know how to love. Love bears all things and hopes all things. Our God given gift is the first thing Satan uses against us in an abusive situation. Abuse always starts with our emotions. You start off ignoring it, then you understand that it is his problem and that’s when the bears all things and hope all things come in.

You tell yourself that you’re not perfect and he accepts your faults, so you need to accept his too. Then you start believing that he will eventually stop when he sees how much you love him and how hard you’re trying to change. After a while, the hope starts to diminish and before you know it you seem to have lost all hope.

Once we lose hope, we are ready to receive anything we think might help. That’s when the devil comes and tells us that it is our fault we are being abused. It’s at this point it seems we don’t know truth from reality. That man can be cheating on you and you know it. You confront him with the facts; you get beat, then you tell yourself you were wrong. When you arrive at the place where you can’t discern a lie from the truth is when Satan presents the ultimate deception: you are worthless, you will never be anybody and sometimes he just may convince you that you don’t deserve to live.

We begin to feel that we are so dreadful and that we will ruin everyone’s lives. We stop going to church and fellowshipping with other believers. We often begin to believe we don’t deserve God’s love. We stop spending time with our family and friends because we think we will be a bad influence. I tell you this man may love you, but he doesn’t know how to show it. I could tell you he is insecure, fearful that he might lose you or he has control or jealously issues, or he just might be evil. It doesn’t matter the reason, you need to let him go.

If you really thought he was evil, you would have left him already. He has to be responsible for him and you have to be responsible for you. Abusive behavior can be simply selfishness and immaturity. Underneath all of that is a sick person and if you choose to stay with him, you become sick. You don’t like that because you think I’m calling you crazy. Crazy is a term that no one likes because it suggests that there isn’t any hope for that person.

The correct label for this is sickness. Sometimes it may be caused by chemical imbalances of the brain, but I believe that most are caused by emotional abuse from the past and a broken heart. If I say you may be sick to stay with him, then that means you can be healed. Jesus covered our total healing, both physical and emotional, on the cross. Isaiah 61:1-3 tells us that Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives and to open the prison to those who are bound.

You are bound by hopelessness, the abuse and with the thought that you can’t leave him. Yes you may be lonely for a while, but that’s okay. Get in touch with your old friends, ask someone to go the movies or out to eat. If you don’t have friends, then get busy. You can bake cookies for the children’s Sunday school class; you can spend time with your relative’s children or visit the nursing home. Get involved with other young women in your church. Start a prayer group or home bible study.

Whatever you do, please don’t be ashamed. So many women have gone through the same type of situation and they won’t judge you. You would be surprised if you knew how many women were and still are in abusive situations. These women are not dumb; most of them are very intelligent and well educated.

Some women may not seem smart, but they are still God’s daughters and they have gifts that God has given them.

Some women have been abused all of their lives and that is so sad. I learned a long time ago not to judge other women by the situations they are in.

I don’t know what they have been through. All women are precious to God and that includes you.

There are some things that will happen to you in life and you will wonder why and never receive an answer. I can tell you why this happened to you. John 10:10 reads “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill and to destroy. I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly. This has happened to you because the devil knows you are royalty and he can’t do anything to take that away from you.

He knows God has a plan for your life, so what he is trying to do is stop that plan. He deceived you because he doesn’t want you to have that abundant life and he hurt you to get back at God. God loves you, you are his daughter and His desire is for you to have the best in life and He wants you to be treated right. I just hope you understand that it hurts God to see you go through this.

The truth is, you are too good for this man. I don’t mean this to be arrogant. This man is allowing Satan to use him in order to steal your joy, your self worth and your hope in God. He also works through this man to kill your ability to reason; to discern the truth from a lie and kill your other healthy relationships in order to put you in bondage.

His ultimate goal was to destroy your faith and your confidence in who you are, to destroy your relationship with God and eventually destroy your will to live. The truth of the matter is – this man is walking in darkness. Your desire is to walk in the light. Amos 3:3 says “Can two walk together unless they are agreed? He doesn’t deserve you because he is holding you back from being what God has called you to be.

I encourage you to leave him alone no matter how hard it seems. Pray often and tell God how you feel. He wants you to cast all your cares upon Him because He cares for you. Sing songs that will lift your spirits. I like some of the old hymns such as “What a Friend We Have In Jesus”. Really concentrate on what these songs are speaking to you.

Read the book of Psalms which contains so much comfort and hope. Go back to Isaiah 61:3. This scripture lets us know that God will comfort us. He will give us beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.

Princess Diana died a divorced woman and though she was divorced, she still had the title Princess and was given royal funeral. This abusive relationship may have sidetracked you for a while; caused you to be separated from God, but you still carry the title Princess because you are still God’s daughter.

You are still entitled to the same benefits, which includes joy, peace, healing, prosperity, comfort mercy and love. Just turn to the Lord and repent and you will be reconciled to Him and those things that you have lost will be restored. Hold your head up high because no matter what you have gone through, you are still God’s daughter – a woman of royalty.

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